Category: Blogging and Social Media

  • The Benefits Of Blogging

    Don’t take this the wrong way, but blogging can be a real pain in the a$$. Sometimes the very last thing I want to do is sit down and try to come up with something relatively entertaining to put on my blog. Like today, for instance.

    Just kidding.

    But, as with all good things, blogging is also it’s own reward. Over these past months while I’ve settled into the groove of being a semi-regular blogger, I’ve found that I’ve gotten many unexpected benefits from my pursuits.

    1. Keeping on a schedule.
    When I decided to blog, I didn’t want the pressure of having to write one every day, so I put myself on a 3-times-a-week schedule. Over the past couple of months, I’ve missed some post days, but I’ve managed to keep up with it pretty well. And that taught me that I could indeed write on a schedule. It taught me that I can be disciplined in all of my writing efforts.

    2. Writing quickly.
    One of the hardest things about writing the blog has been coming up with things to write about. But, I’ve done it (with various degrees of success). This has taught me that I can come up with topics and write about them on short notice. And, because I’ve seen that I can come up with an idea and execute it quickly, my fiction writing has picked up the pace.

    3. Writing regularly.
    Up until last year, my writing has gone in fits and starts. Basically I’ve written when I’ve felt like it, and didn’t write when I didn’t feel like it. But I couldn’t do that with the blog. If I was committed to keep on my schedule, then I had to write whether I felt like it or not. This too has translated favorably to my fiction writing. Yes, there have been days when the writing I’ve done has been on my blog rather than my book, but the fact that I was writing the blog regularly has helped me to get into a better routine of writing my fiction regularly.

    4. Doing my own thing
    You can find all kinds of advice on blogging. Everyone seems to want to tell you what to say, how to say it, and when. In the end I just had to say the heck with all of it. I can’t write regularly on a schedule and be relatively interesting AND try to be somebody I’m not too. So I decided just to write the blog as it came to me. That’s what you have to do with fiction as well. You can read all of the advice in the world, but in the end you have to be who you are.

    So, there you go. It may be a pain in the arse, but all in all I enjoy blogging very much indeed.

    You’re welcome.

    Get out of here, Blogosphere.

    Sure. Kick the blogosphere out of your blog. Nice going.

    Oh, yeah. Good point.

     

  • Relationship Crisis

    Hello?

    *silence*

    Hello, is anybody there?

    *crickets chirping*

    Blogosphere? Are you there? *clicks tongue* Here Blogosphere! Come here, little Blogosphere! Sweet little Blogosphere…

    Excuse me, but did you really just call me like you would call a dog?

    Oh, Blogosphere! There you are.

    So, are we talking again?

    Of course we’re talking! When were we not talking?

    How about for the last two or three weeks.

    I talked to you. I posted regularly and I was on Facebook and Twitter and–

    I don’t give a crap about Facebook and Twitter.

    But aren’t they part–

    Epp! *slices finger across throat*

    Sorry. You were saying?

    You backed  off. You wrote some big dramatic blog post about how your time was so “precious” *sneers* and you didn’t have any left for me.

    I did not! I said that I was going to post twice a week, but I never said that I didn’t have time for you!

    That’s not what I heard. That’s not what your “public” (and I use the term loosely) heard. They heard that you were backing away from me. They heard that you were spurning me. They saw you flip me the finger and walk off.

    No! No that’s not true! I would NEVER walk away from you, Blogosphere! It’s just that my time–

    Oh, please. *saws forefinger over thumb* See this? This is a little violin playing just for you.

    Time is important!

    Cry me a river.

    And you want me to keep writing, don’t you? Well… don’t you?

    Yeah, sure. Whatever.

    Besides, I decided that it was a mistake to go to twice a week blog posts.

    Oh, really?

    Yes. You’ve been so cold. So distant. I just can’t tolerate this new…tension between us.

    Uh, huh.

    Really! You’re important to me, Blogosphere. Our relationship is important. I’m not going to just toss that away.

    Hmmm.

    Honest. I’m writing again, Blogosphere. I’m writing regularly. And…and I want to come back. I want to come back to three times a week blog posts. I can’t, well, I can’t get by only seeing you twice a week. I need more of you.

    So you’ll do me three times a week again?

    Uh, yeah. I guess you could put it that way.

    You’ll  Follow Friday on Twitter again?

    I thought you didn’t give a crap about Twitter.

    Just answer the damn question!

    Yes, yes, yes! I’m going to tweet and post and Facebook and I’m going to “like” and respond and read emails and be the bestest social media queen that you ever saw. I’m going to interact with you like you’ve never been interacted with before! Our relationship…it’s entering a new phase. A better one. More mature.

    Mature, huh?

    Yeah, mature. I’m sorry I stepped away from you, Blogosphere. I was…I was…wrong. *sob* You’re so important to me… Take me back. Take me back, please..*sob*

    Geez, get a hold of yourself.

    *whimper* I’m trying.

    Okay. Look, it’s all right.  I understand.  How about you just do your best and I’ll pay exactly as much attention to you as I ever did.

    Really?

    Really.

    Thank you, Blogosphere. Um, how much attention was that again? Blogosphere? Blogosphere are you still there? Hello….

    *silence*

    Um, thank you.

    I think.

  • Time, Time, Time Is NOT On My Side

    Periodically I go up against my biggest enemy – Time. Or rather, lack of time. It’s fine when I’m just coasting along living in my own delirious illusion, but if I happen to open my eyes and see how much time has flowed past, and how little I’ve accomplished with it, I become slightly panicked. In addition, I’m suffering from some increased demands in my day job, and in other areas of my life, that have served to squeeze my available time even more.

    After some internal debate, I’ve decided to make a few changes to my social media commitments. Social media, as you probably know, is a wonderful thing. It’s also the perfect time waster – you can tell yourself that you’re working, when all you’re really doing is surfing the Internet.

    First, I deleted my Google Plus profile. I haven’t been using it, and frankly I don’t have the time to develop my presence there. Besides, although I had about 200 people in my circles, my stream tended to be filled with posts from about 5 very active users. I just didn’t have the feeling of community and conversation there that I have in Twitter and Facebook.

    So, if you were following me on Google Plus, please come follow me on Twitter or Facebook. If you don’t already. Which you probably do.

    Deleting that Google Plus profile felt kind of empowering, if you want to know the truth. Social Media will NOT RULE ME!  MWHAHAHA!  But I’ll always be grateful to Google Plus for putting me in contact with Doris – the lovely person who extended me the original invitation to join. Thanks, Doris!

    Next, regarding this blog. Since I started in April, I’ve been posting three times a week – Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday – with only the occasional break. I feel that I just can’t keep up that pace anymore. I’ve decided to go to twice weekly – Wednesday and Sunday – in the hopes that bi-weekly will fit in better with my schedule. Right now I don’t have much creative time, so I don’t want the creative time I DO have spent trying to write a blog post. If twice a week doesn’t work, I might have to drop to once a week for a while, but I’m going to try to avoid that.

    So, this post is really just an FYI for those of you who would actually have noticed that things had changed. I now return you to your regularly scheduled program already in progress.

    And let us all use our time wisely. 😀

     

  • A Few Things I Learned After My Book Was Released

    I was on vacation last week, so I actually had time to think. Thinking time has been at a premium for the past couple of months, but last week I was able to reflect on some of  the things I’ve learned now that my book has been released.

    As you may, or may not, know, my romantic suspense novel, HOLD ME, came out on 9/5/11, so it’s been roaming free in the wilds for a month now. And as you may, or may not, know, this is the first time I’ve had a book published. So there have been a lot of new things to absorb.

    Anyway, here are some random thoughts about what I’ve learned, in no particular order of importance.

    • People actually read my book (and are reading it). I was kind of surprised by that. I’m not sure why I was surprised, because people reading it is kind of the point of publication. Anyway, knowing that people were reading something I wrote, and that I had no control over who read it and who didn’t, was a new experience for me.
    • I was also surprised by what people liked and didn’t like about the book. The one issue I thought everyone would comment on has only been a problem for one or two people. Something I didn’t even consider to be an issue at all has made people very angry or very annoyed. (I’m not going to tell you what those things are because I don’t want to prejudice anyone who might be reading the book).
    • The bad reviews have been more valuable than the good reviews in pointing out weaknesses and things I should watch out for in the future. I don’t enjoy reading them, and sometimes they make me sad, but I’m trying to learn from them.  They also helped me to come to terms with why I write in the first place.  Because if I’m only writing because I want people to like me, I’m going to have a rough road ahead.
    • Social media IS the great time waster. It is also VERY easy in the social media world to think that you’re more important than you really are. Well, okay, we’re all important, but I mean it’s easy to believe that you’re more above-average than you really are. Basically, we’re all schmoes.
    • If you have a vague notion for a series, plot it all out first because DANG it’s hard to back into your thought processes once the book is finished.
    • You may find support where you least expect it. But you may also find that the reality of the fact that you’ve taken a step forward in your life startles people and makes them back off.
    • Being published does not make you a writer. Only writing makes you a writer. Being published just means that people you don’t know are reading what you’ve written.

    So, there you go. I’m back at work tomorrow, so all deep reflective thought shall cease for at least a couple of days while I scramble out from under a pile of papers. LOL 😀

     

  • HOLD ME Countdown – Battle Plans

    Private Horvath!

    What?  Who?…. Blogosphere? Is that you?

    I am Sergeant Blogosphere, Private, and the appropriate response to my calling you is “Sir, yes Sir.”

    What is this?

    I cain’t HEAR you!

    Um…Sir.  Yes, uh, sir.

    Fair enough.  Now front and center, Private and make it snappy.

    ::moves forward:: Um, yeah?

    Stand at attention when I’m talking to you, girl.

    Sir. Yes, sir. ::snaps to attention::

    When is release day, Private?

    Release day is in 23 days, sir!

    And what day is that, Private?

    It is Monnnnday, September 5th, sir!

    Good.  At ease.

    ::assumes parade rest position::

    I had to call you several times before you showed up, Private. What were you doing.

    I was resting, sir.

    Resting!  ::slaps riding crop against thigh:: I do not recall giving you permission to rest.

    I’m…I’m sorry, sir.  I was hungry and I needed to..

    That’s enough!  We need to review our battle plans.  That release day isn’t getting any further away, is it?

    Yes…um…no.  No, sir!

    Okay. Let’s get this done.  Twitter and Facebook, check.  Blog ::looks around:: I guess it’s the best we can expect. Google Plus?

    Set up, Sir!

    Goodreads?

    Waiting for confirmation of author status, sir!

    Fine, fine.  You were a little late on the jump on that one, but we’ll let it slide.  Amazon author page?

    Set up, sir!

    With bio and picture?

    Yes, sir! I uploaded the cover, but I’m waiting for it to load.

    Could have been done sooner, but okay. *checks clipboard*  eHarlequin community?

    Set up, Sir. With bio and author page and first blog posted.

    But no posting in the forums yet, huh?

    Um, no sir!

    Well, get out there and do that! *makes note*  Kindlegraph?

    Set up, sir!  But the cover isn’t there yet.

    What?  Not there?

    I hope it will be soon, sir!

    I guess that’s all right.  Guest blog posts?

    Um, not yet, sir.

    Not yet! Not yet! What have you been doing, sleeping?

    Well, the posts are mostly drafted and I have them planned…

    That is not good enough, Private!  ::begins to pace back and forth:: Not good enough at all.  There are 23 days to release day.  23!  You need to have these things in place before then!  Have you even looked at the interview Maureen sent you?

    Not yet, but…

    Have you looked at the promotional opportunities email from Carina?

    Not really, but…

    Have you formatted your interview with Rhonda for next week?

    No, but…

    This is unexceptable!  This will not be tolerated!  Stand at attention, Private!

    ::snaps to attention::

    Now you listen to me, and you listen to me good. This battle will not be won with “but’s”  This battle will not be won with “should’s”  This battle will be won  with heart, and soul, and computers!  Do I make myself clear?

    Sir!  Yes, sir!

    Good!  Now get out there and give me the kind of blog posting that I expect from one of my recruits!  Go out and interact the way you’ve never interacted before!

    Sir!  Yes, sir!

    GO, Private!

    ::Betsy double-times it out of the post::

    Damn straight.  ::Blogosphere chews on unlit cigar::  Well, she’ll either get it, or she’ll fall asleep trying.

    And YOU!  YOU watch for HOLD ME, release day 9/5/11. Do I make myself clear?

    Good.

    P.S. – Tune into the blog on Tuesday – we’re having a contest.

  • Both Sides Of Blogging

     

    I’ve been blogging three times a week for about six months now. I’ve only missed one post (the Thursday before I went to RWA), but then I made up for it the next week. So, of course, now that I’m an expert and all I thought I would post a list of some of the good things and some of the bad things I’ve discovered about blogging.

    Good Things

    1. You can write about anything you want to write about.
    2. Writing a blog keeps the writing juices flowing.
    3. It gives you practice in being disciplined and meeting a deadline.
    4. Your posts go out to the whole internet and can touch people you don’t even know.
    5. You can be honest and open.

    Bad Things

    1. You can write about anything, but you have to think of things to write about. Interesting things. Charming things. Things that will have people wanting to come back to your writing again and again. Even if you don’t feel interesting or charming.
    2. It may keep the writing juices flowing, but it also siphons off valuable writing time. Imagination you could be using for your fiction gets put to the blog because you have a shorter deadline.
    3. Meeting a deadline sucks if all you have are tumbleweeds blowing across the empty desert of your mind.
    4. Your posts go out to the whole internet and they never go away. So if you’re stupid it can haunt you for the rest of your life and even beyond the grave. No pressure there.
    5. If you’re too honest and open, the next thing you know people are peeking in the venetian blinds at you and you can’t walk down the hall at work without…oh, wait. That’s just me.

    And the verdict?

    Despite the pitfalls, I have to say that I like blogging. I really do. I like chattering on to no one in particular. I like posting pictures of my cats. I like it when people comment, thereby validating me as a writer and a human being. So I’m going to keep on keeping on.

    And, you know, I’ve looked at blogs from both sides now, from up and down, and still somehow, it’s blogs illusions I recall… Wait! Do I really know blogs at all?

    Hmmmm.